I love this picture. I found it on Pinterest under the category of cutest of cute, I think. Whenever I need to crack a smile—I stare at it…long and hard. No way you can look at it and not grin. I mean, I just want to squeeze this bird. A word picture in itself, his fluffiness describes an expression a friend and I have coined when we’re feeling upset or angry. With clenched fists and tight teeth we look at each other exclaiming, “It’s sooo fluffffyyy!”
No lengthy discussions or explanations needed. We know the language of fluffy. And depending on the day or amount of stress I’m under—I may “get fluffy” a lot. Often I’m more apt to get upset with my family, than at work. But this phrase, whether spoken out-loud or rehearsed in my head, has helped me manage my emotions more effectively.
Granted, there are occasional upsets needing to be addressed. Just repeating a cute phrase doesn’t make negative feelings subside. Some days, the stress starts early. With little sleep and a head full of worry, you rush out the door only to be stopped by traffic and punch the clock late. Then, someone or something happens and…you detonate bright blue feathers all over the place!! More often than none, my anger leaves a trail that has to be resolved. Even with a heart felt, “I’m sorry,” there’s still a mess to clean up. And who needs more messes?
Often times, I find if I pray before I speak, and focus my thoughts before I pray, I lose a lot less feathers and save myself a ton of upset. I mean, do you know how much energy it takes to get upset? Let alone pick up the regret when I’m through. So saying, “It’s soooo fluffffy,” has become my proverbial counting to ten. I just count feathers instead.
Consequently, if I get back to the basics: honest and assertive communication, prioritizing, sleeping and eating well, along with managing my stress, my irritation level drops dramatically. But the true key to handling my anger is allowing God to work with me on it. Significant hurts tend to fade and blend like watercolors when I call on God’s help. Looking to his word helps me to meditate and focus on what’s beyond me. And there is sooo much more beyond me. Like that bright-blue-fluffy bird, for instance. Don’t ya just want to squeeeeeeeze it? It’s so fluffy!!!
“A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.” (Proverbs 29:11 NIV).